Friday, December 27, 2013

Old Pottery and Gold Fillings

 
I am a new pot.  I am filled with crushed up old pots, and I hope a gold filling or two.  I also was made of very stiff clay.

I often tell my kids that if you look at a stop sign it is red no matter how often someone might tell you it is green or even how many people believe it is green.  (Unless it is a green stop sign, which would just be weird.)  The Bible is filled with Truth, and there are a few analogies that describe so poignantly how we are shaped, grown and made fruitful by the Lord.  Here is one of my favorites and how it applies to our lives

The Potter.

This one is very profound to me.  It is such a beautiful description of what God does in our lives and it took a while for me to learn enough about pottery to understand this one more fully.

  1. God is the potter and we are the clay. Isaiah 64: 8 Yet You,oh Lord,are our Father.  We are the clay and You are the Potter.  We are the workYour hand. A potter does a few things to his clay to work it.  He puts enough water to make it pliable and soft.  He also puts a fair amount of pressure on the clay to shape it, and he never takes his eyes off of the pot while He is working it.

    The working of the clay to make it pliable is God working on our hearts and adding the water of the Holy Spirit to make us softened.  Our hearts can become very hardened from hurts and the difficulties of life without God stepping in to keep us soft.

    When the Potter is shaping the clay He has to put pressure on it and pretty firm pressure.  We don't like change!  We like to stay the same shape we are, and we like to not have pressure put on us to change either.  In order for the softened clay to take a new shape the Potter has to put His hands on it and press in pretty firmly.  He has to have a plan for what the clay will be when it is complete and what the use will be for it.  If the clay has not softened enough the Potter has to press even more firmly to shape it.  The softer the clay, the easier it is to shape.

    When the Potter is shaping the clay, He can't take His eyes off of it for a minute.  He has to pay attention every second or it will fail and not take the intended shape.  It is very comforting to me as I feel the pressure of His hands, that He is paying particular attention to me as well.
  2.   The potter can take all of the old mistakes in our lives and reshape them into beauty.Jer 18:4 He was making a pot from clay. But there was something wrong with the pot. So the potter used that clay to make another pot. With his hands he shaped the pot the way he wanted it to be.

    We make mistakes, and we mess things up, and we walk places we should not walk and do things we should not do.  The good news is that God can take those things and reshape them into the form He wants it to take.  I am awfully grateful for that.

  3. Sometimes the things in our lives that are the most broken are used to create the most strength.  There is a process of tempering clay where old broken pottery is crushed up to add to new clay to strengthen it.  The old broken pottery is fully incorporated into the new and serves to add more strength than could be with new clay alone.

    I was so broken.  I was beyond broken and just a million pieces of mess.  God took all that brokenness and is using it to strengthen my new pot and to reshape me into a new creation. That is so miraculous to me!  The ugliest things He has used to create a new beauty.
  4. There is a very old way of repairing broken pottery that makes it even more beautiful by using gold to mend the cracks.  When I think about this I think about Paul saying that we have the treasure in pots of clay  2 Cor:4  The beauty can only come through and show when the pot is broken.  Breaking is painful and looks ugly for a while, but the eventual beauty is far above the original.



                                       







Monday, December 16, 2013

I Am Not at *All* Sure I Can be Friends With Me

Boy, if I were to listen to the rumors about people like me I would be scared to be alone with me!  I would think I were nearly a terrorist, and frankly bad for the country, let alone the economy, and I would never be friends with me!  Good thing I don't listen to all the gossip about me or I might not have me for a friend.

For example.  I am a homeschooler.  This doesn't mean that I trap my kids in the house and hope that no one ever speaks to them, that I make them so weird that they are incapable of thinking for themselves, or that I have classes on Tuesdays and Thursdays called: "America: Yours for the Taking."  If I were to believe the rumors, I would wonder if my kids are even able to mingle in normal society or add 2+2 let alone read and extrapolate complex information and engage in critical thinking.

                                        

I read an article recently where homeschool debate groups, which specifically teach critical thinking skills, are being called training camps for world domination by brainwashing teenagers to spout the parent's agenda, and teaching them how to argue it most effectively.  Ummmm....have they ever even met a teenager who has been taught to think and examine information?  They think what they want to think and have their own opinions and once they find out how to think for themselves they do.  Trust me;  I have 5 teenagers as I write this!  Just trust me on this one.  Oh wait...maybe you are one of those people who can think for yourself.

I am a homeschooler, and yet, oddly enough, I have never in my life owned a denim jumper. Weird.

                             

Now see, here is the thing.  I am certain that there are crazy people out there.  In fact I have met more than a few.  I am also sure that there are some people who put their agenda above the welfare and well being and lifelong happiness of their kids.  I am certain of it.  But just because some crazy people and some homeschool parents do some crazy things doesn't mean *I* do them too!  I mean I know for a fact that every murderer in the history of the world has been a food eater.  So am I.  Does that make me inherently a murderer?  Or let's take a closer look at fundamentalist type of people.  Just because the news shows you pictures of prairie dress wearing girls, and boys in suspenders doesn't mean that they are all Amish, any more than there is a correlation between homeschooling and being an overbearing, abusive, brainwashing, crazy person.

                                                     

Yeah, I know it is more fun to think of those of us who have taken a different approach to raising our kids as crazy.  I get the entertainment value in it.  I do.  It is always more fun to think about the scandalous, titillating, and bizarre, otherwise circus sideshows and internet porn wouldn't have been the huge hits they have historically been.  But to make my point again, I can use the internet without looking at porn, just as I can homeschool without brainwashing, doing a lousy job of educating them, or abusing them.  I know, hard to believe, and yet true.  I don't even call my home a compound for pity sakes.

If it were true, I sure wouldn't hang out with me, because I would not be a very nice person, let alone any kind of loving parent.




Friday, December 6, 2013

Tips on Coping with Grieving Through the Holidays

Grief.  Man.  Who needs it?  It hurts more than you ever knew it could, and you wonder if you will ever be okay again.  When my daughter died (5 years 5 months and 10 days ago) it took me a long time to know I would be able to survive it.  A lot of people thought I was so brave.  The truth is I had no choice and time does help.  It just took a lot more of it than I thought it would.

The holidays especially are a minefield and so hard to navigate. You just never know when a sight, sound, memory, or smell will punch you in the gut and leave you in a puddle on the floor.  For most people it is the hardest and the first year is the worst, but not the only by far.

Pete and I spoke at a Grieving Through the Holidays event last night and today a dear friend posted some struggles on Facebook.  I realized that some of the coping tips we spoke about last night might help more people.

1. Don't try to recreate traditions.  They won't feel the same, and will hurt more.  Do something different, and the first year it is even helpful to do something totally different.

2. Realize that you can and will be caught off guard from places and things you would never expect.  Try to plan for circumstances, and even plan your verbal responses to various questions, and realize it is normal to get caught off-guard.  Plan for it as best you can.

3. It is okay to grieve with your family.  Don't try to hide it.  It will even give them permission to feel the feelings too.  Sometimes they don't feel it or allow the feelings in deference to you.

4. Don't create a shrine.  Save some mementos and special things, but don't leave whole rooms untouched or try to keep them there.  It won't help you heal to have that in your life.

5. Forgive the insensitivity of others.  Brace yourself for some of the hurtful things people say and remember that they took the time to talk to you and meant well.  Some people won't take that time and make that effort.

6. Grieving can be inconvenient.  Try to make appointments with yourself to cry and get it out so there is less built up when it is not convenient and you get caught off guard.

7. Husbands and wives can grieve at different times and different ways.  It is okay.  Your grief is your own, and no one will deal with it the same way you do.

8.Constant suppression will turn pain into anger.  Anger is an easier emotion to manage but the pain needs to be felt to be dealt with and gotten through.  Your goal is to get past it the best you can, not save it for later.

9. It is okay to share, but be careful with whom you share.  Not everyone will be compassionate, or able to be sensitive.

10. Find a non-consuming outlet: writing, music, exercise, a new project etc.

11. When you are deciding what things you want to do or events to attend, try to decide based on what you would have chosen before.  If it is something that would have given you pleasure before, it is very likely to bring you pleasure now.

12.  Talk about your loved one.  Remember them.  Speak their name and encourage others to do so as well.  The memories are sweet, even when it hurts too.

Monday, December 2, 2013

50 Things I Want My Kids to Know Before They Leave Home


People don't always agree with me, and I am okay with that.  I started homeschooling back when people would ask if it was legal to do so.  I believed in safe homebirth way back when, and I have never thought I was raising kids.  I am raising adults!  With that goal in mind, I intentionally teach my kids certain things.  Many years ago we wrote a list of what we want them to know and understand outside of traditional academics.

It is like cooking a meal.  You start by knowing what you want to cook and how you want it to end up and how long you have to do it.  If you are cooking a turkey dinner, you know that it will take 4 hours to cook and if dinner is at 5 pm and you need to let it rest you should pop it in the oven at noon, and if the rolls take 15 minutes you need to get them in at 4.30 to get them cooked and served.

The same principle applies.  If you want your kids to be able to cook well, you have to start early enough to teach it well, and give them time to practice before they leave home.  By the time my kids are 10 or so they can cook at least one breakfast, lunch and dinner meal, by the time they are 15 or 16  they can manage a week's menu and cook the meals, and by the time they are 18 they can do all of that plus do the shopping, including sales planning, and cook for a special occasion.  It just isn't possible to teach all of that in a year or less and do it properly.

By the time my kids are 18, and in no particular order of importance, I want them to be able to:

1. Talk to a stranger for a job, or help, or to make a friend.
2. Speak or perform in front of an audience.
3. Change a tire.
4. Do their laundry.
5. Plan a menu and shop for a week's food.
6. Speak about classic books.
7. Know why they believe what they do, not just what.
8. Be comfortable caring for a baby, child, and elderly person.
9. Type at least 30 words per minute.
10. Cook at least 10 different complete meals.
11. Change the oil in the car.
12. Find an alternate way to make money, be entrepreneurial and able to sell.
13. Cut hair.
14. Articulate their thoughts.
15. Manage their money, including tithing, giving, and saving.
16. Manage their time including punctuality and not procrastinating.
17. Work hard.
18. Be adventurous and try new things.
19. Know and understand nutrition.
20. Basic home repairs, such as a clogged sink, window repair, painting, etc.
21. Have basic survival skills like purifying water, starting a fire, and finding directions.
22. Know how to tell what is a bargain and what is not in various things: food, cars, clothes, housing and services etc .
23. Drive in snow.
24. Write a letter of complaint.
25. Give to people in need.
26. Find information and sort through the good from the bad, and truth from fiction.
27. Bookkeeping for home and a small business.
28. First aid and how to treat illnesses.
29. Drive a stick shift.
30. Cook for a party or special occasion.
31. Bake a pie.
32. Plan a party or special event
33. Basic sewing: mending a tear, sewing a button, making a curtain or pillow etc.
34. Change a bad mood.
35. Store food, and what to keep in a pantry.
36. Make people laugh.
37. Read a recipe and cook with it.
38. Cook without a recipe.
39. Jump-start a car.
40. Get a job.
41. Plan a strategy.
42. Share feelings appropriately and handle conflict.
43. Have fun.
44. Take a good photo.
45. Braid.
46. Bake bread.
47. Love people.
48. Plant a vegetable garden.
49. Do the best you can do, not the least you can get away with.
50. Forgive.

Someone took this list and made an interactive quiz from it.  Want to take it?  :)
http://www.listchallenges.com/50-things-to-know-how-to-do

Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Breaking news! McDonald's to Join Forces with Whole Foods Market

Yeah.  No.  I lied.  They are not joining forces.  In fact, I suspect that the clientele of the two companies is about as different as the clientele of the local Gamer's hotspot and the local opera joint.  There might be some overlap, but in general, not so much.

Which is my point.  McDonald's does what it does.  They make some tasty, salty, processed, greasy, quick, cheap food with a salad on the menu somewhere down in the depths.  What they don't offer is gourmet fare, except some darn good coffee in my opinion.  They don't offer any burger that is fresh ground chuck, or an organic tofu and sprouts item.  The only fresh vegetables are in a highly processed salad, and let's face it: They do what they do, they do it well, cheap and fast.  It isn't something I want to eat every day, but I do enjoy a quarter pounder with fries now and then.
The thing that bugs me is when people look at McDonald's and think that they have some obligation to the public to offer food other than what they offer.  It is as if someone somewhere decided that because Mickey D's makes a lot of money, and has had great success that it somehow creates a responsibility to make their menu health food.  They have no such responsibility.  They employ a lot of people, and offer what people want to eat at a price they will pay for it.  Free market baby!

Let's take the whole they-use-ammonium-hydroxide-in-their-food-processing controversy. Or maybe they don't now.  I don't care.  Yeah, really.  I don't care.  Did you know that you have eaten lye, yes lye, on every pretzel you have every enjoyed?  They use a lye wash to create that yummy shiny coat that makes the salt stick and feels so good in your mouth.  It is safe.  I wouldn't want to take a swallow of it because I like my esophagus where it currently is, but I like pretzels just fine and have never worried a second about it.  I wouldn't want a swallow of the stuff that every restaurant has to use to sanitize your silverware either, but I sure am glad they use it.

Lye is Sodium Hydroxide and you eat it all the time!

I don't think we should eat a lot of the ammonium hydroxide processed food, but it is mainly because I don't think it is healthy to eat hamburgers and fries every day even if they are hand ground in your grandma's kitchen and cooked over the coals by grandpa in the backyard. Oh wait...what about those coals?  Should we be cooking over previously burnt wood and what type of wood is that anyway and is the match used to light them safe?

I think that we should be eating, in our homes, food that was prepared from meats, and vegetables that we chose for the meal.  I think we should be spending the time to cook dinner and eat together.  I think processed food is bad for us on a daily basis, and who really cares if that processed food comes cooked in a box that says McDonald's or in a box from the grocery store that lets you pretend you cooked that day because you had to boil water and add the packet of...well...something that tastes good, into the browned hamburger?  

Is fast food bad for us?  Yeah...it is.  But so is most of the stuff that people pass off as food these days.  At least McDonald's doesn't pretend that what they offer is health food like I have seen in other places!  They do what they do.  They do it well, and for the record I ate half a box of Mcdonald's fries today with an order of McNuggets.  I also drank a diet Coke.  They were delicious.  I haven't had any of them for a long time and I enjoyed them immensely.  Tomorrow I will eat eggs from my hens for breakfast, and for dinner we are planning white bean, sausage and kale soup.  I will enjoy them thoroughly too.  

Saturday, October 12, 2013

Why I Left the Mormon Church

A couple of weeks ago my daughter invited a friend to go to church with us.  The same friend that she went to church with the previous week.  She sat in the living room while the friend's mom started yelling in the other room and saying that if she allowed her daughter to go to church with us that the next thing she knew her daughter would be wearing short skirts and over here drinking with my daughter.  All of that over a visit to our church?

This episode has stuck in my head, and brought up a lot of memories for me.  I remember asking my mom if I could visit a friend's church once, and while she didn't say I would end up a short-skirt-wearing drunk, she did tell me no because they would try to convert me but that my friend was welcome to visit our church.  I was about 12 or 13 at the time and it opened up a line of thinking to me, that ultimately ended in my leaving the Mormon church.  That day I realized, and it was never in question to me, that if my friend visited our church, that they would try to convert her.  I had heard story after story of people who converted to the Mormon church leaving broken families behind and how proud everyone was of these stories.  It seemed hypocritical to me.

I have realized that I left the Mormon church over 30 years ago and not one person who stayed Mormon ever asked me why.  It was hard.  My mom cried; I lost many friends. I am not invited to family events, and most family won't come to some of ours.  There is division and it hurt then and still does.  It was far from a light decision and took me over 9 years.  I grew up as a Mormon and even as a teenager I knew very few who were not.  I certainly didn't know anyone who was really anything else except for this one friend, and I wasn't allowed to learn what she believed.  To this day I don't know what denomination she was.

I first left when I was 17.  I know to my family it seemed like I was just rebelling, and I admit, I was rebellious.  I had also spent over a year studying and trying to learn.  In my high school, as in all schools in Utah, every day one period was spent in LDS Seminary.  It is a 4 year program to correspond with high school and the schools have the buildings in very close proximity so that students can go easily.  I had an exceptional teacher in my junior year who allowed me to monopolize the class time with my questions.  He really tried to answer me and gave me a lot of material to work on, and was very honest.  I am sure it would sadden him to know where his answers led me, but I am very grateful to him.  I began by asking a lot of questions about polygamy and the "pre-existence".  The places I kept getting stuck were things like: What were we before we were spirit children of our Father and Mother in Heaven?  The answer I was given was that we were "intelligences without form yet".  Since I knew that the teaching was that we were eternal without beginning it just didn't make any sense to me that we existed without form prior to our spiritual *physical* birth in heaven before Earth.  I just couldn't accept that one.  Another question was about Polygamy since Mormons do believe in polygamy but do not practice it.  I was taught in an official class that all men would be given 7 wives in heaven.  I kept asking where all the other men would be.  There was no answer.

I also discovered that my questions could have many different answers depending on who I asked.  Especially the really tricky ones like how I was one of the lost tribes of Isreal?  Or like the one about what we were before we were spiritual children.  There were so many.  I saw complete hypocrisy everywhere I looked.  I am old enough now to know that the people are not the religion, but it was just everywhere.  I didn't know anyone who was the same person in church as they were out of church.  I saw so many who said they believed in something and then behaved in diametrically opposite ways.  And then.  A dear friend's mom was near death and later died.  She was a good Mormon, and did all the stuff she was supposed to do and tried hard.  When she thought she was dying she said that she hoped she had done enough.  She didn't know if she had done all she could do and didn't know where she would go when she died.  Her words made me realize that even the very best of those Mormons I knew felt the same way; they didn't know and because of that they pretended to be better than they knew they were.

And I knew it was wrong.  I knew that I couldn't go on pretending, and that I just couldn't believe all that nonsense I had been taught.

I knew I believed in God. And I knew  He loved me.  I just didn't have any more use for religion.  I began then to call myself just a nondenominational Christian, not even really knowing what that meant.  I just didn't see anything else that made any more sense to me.  I still prayed and I continued to believe in God, and just left it all alone.

Over the years I would occasionally look into it again.  I would pull out my Bible and talk to people.  Once in a while I would start to think about it.  But no answers came forth.  I still lived in Utah and everyone was still either Mormon or decidedly NOT Mormon, drinking, partying, drugs and so forth.  When I was in my mid 20's and had 3 kids and was a single mom, I started to want to look at it all again.  My first thought was that maybe I had been wrong.  Maybe I really had been just a rebellious teenager who wanted to see it that way and I knew so many really smart people who believed it.  I thought they must have  answers to the hard questions.  So I started asking questions again.  I started looking.

This was the mid 80s and there was no such thing as the Internet, so research was a lot harder.  I did start by asking Mormons for answers, and just couldn't get any.  So I started looking for what I had been taught was Anti-Mormon material.  Most of it I just hated!  It was caustic, mocking, bitter, hateful stuff that was just designed to inflame emotions and cause dissension.  It was not unbiased and it was far from loving.  I read some of it and then went to Mormon friends to ask them about what I had read.  It was not helpful on either count.  When I asked hard questions I was told we shouldn't ask them and that anything that was anti-Mormon was just designed to persecute.  But some of it...some of it...I knew was true from what I had learned as a Mormon myself.  It isn't persecution to speak the truth.

And then I found some material that spoke real truth in a loving way.  It was not designed to hurt Mormons.  It was simply designed to tell the truth, and I learned some truth that I was able to verify for myself.  Most importantly I also learned how and why I could trust the Bible!  For the first time I was able to compare because I learned that the Bible hadn't been translated and re-translated.  It had been translated once!  It had been meticulously copied to preserve it, and even that had been done in such a way to virtually eliminate mistakes.  But is a far cry from the translations from one language to another to another that I had been taught happened and why it could not be depended on to be accurate still.  I learned that I could compare the Bible to Mormon teaching and see what was real and what was not.

I also could research the history of the Mormon church for myself based on some material I found.  It was crazy what I discovered was true.  I am a very scholarly type and not inclined to believe anything that is presented to me.  I know how to think for myself and I had thoroughly learned how to research for myself in debate in high school.  I knew how to dig out material, and I was on a mission to find out if the Mormon church was true.  I kind of hoped to find out it was to be honest.  I really did.  A big, blunt, reason was because I was a single mom and very poor, and the Mormon church has a fantastic welfare system and I could have gotten help.

So by now if you are still reading you might be curious about what led me to make the final break.  What did I learn that made me certain that the Mormon church is not true?  Here in brief form and not in any particular order, since they all combined together to a whole are my biggest reasons and some of the documentation behind them.  For the most part I tried to use Mormon publications to be as sure as possible that it had not been corrupted.

1. The Golden Plates and translation.

Joseph Smith did a few things that I could not reconcile and there are several serious problems with the translation story as I was taught it and as the Mormon church presents it.  The one that really made the decision for me was that the original version of the Book of Mormon had literally thousands of changes made to correct it.  I was taught as a Mormon, that when Joseph Smith was writing, the translation of the plates would appear to him and until his scribe wrote it correctly it would not disappear, so it had to be 100% correct before the text would disappear and the next passage appear.  Since there were thousands of grammatical and spelling errors, this would necessarily assume that God had made these mistakes, and that would be impossible.

All of this is well documented and not hard to find but here is a sampling:
TextOriginal 1830 Edition, Book of MormonEditions 1837, 1888, 1920, 1964, 1978
Title page
Joseph Smith, Jr. The author and proprietor of this work
Joseph Smith, Jr. the translator of this work
Title page
now if there be fault, it be the mistake of men...
now if there are faults, they are the mistakes of men...
1 Ne 13:40
the lamb of God is the Eternal Father
the lamb of God is the son of the Eternal Father
1Nephi 11:21
the Eternal Father
son of the Eternal Father
1 Nephi 11:32
the Everlasting God
son of the Everlasting God
1 Nephi 20:1
words added
or out of the waters of Baptism
2 Nephi 12:9
the mean man boweth down
the mean man boweth not down
Alma 29:4
Yea, decreeth unto them decrees which are unalterable
words deleted
Alma 37:21,24
directors
Interpreters
Alma 30:16
it is the effects of a phrensied mind
it is the effect of a frenzied mind
Throughout B of M
now there was seven churches
now there were seven churches
Throughout B of M
there were no blood to shed
there was no blood to shed
Throughout B of M
there is two churches
there are two churches
Throughout B of M
and also much horses
and also many horses
Throughout B of M
these things had not ought to be
these things ought not to be
Throughout B of M
as I was a journeying
as I was journeying ("a" removed)
Throughout B of M
They did prepare for to meet them
They did prepare to meet them ("for" removed)
Throughout B of M
some have arrested the scriptures
some have wrested the scriptures
Throughout B of M
when they had arriven
when they had arrived
Throughout B of M
having no respects to persons
having no respect to persons ("s" removed)
Throughout B of M
they had fell into great errors
they had fallen into great errors
Throughout B of M
which was wrote upon the plates
which was written upon the plates
Throughout B of M
they were exceeding fraid
they were exceedingly afraid
Throughout B of M
they had began to possess the land
they had begun to possess the land
Throughout B of M
this they done that they might provide food
this they did that they might provide food
Alma 23:1
nor neither of their brethren
nor either of their brethren
Mosiah 21:28; Ether 4:1
king Benjamin
Mosiah (Benjamin was dead at this time)
1 Nephi 12:18
Jesus Christ
Messiah (Jesus had not yet been revealed to the Nephites)
1 Nephi 20:1
come forth out of the waters of Judah
or out of the waters of baptism (these words added after "Judah"
2 Nephi 16:2
seraphims
seraphim (verse copied from older copy of KJV which made a gramatical error)

summarized from "Mormonism: Shadow or Reality" Jerald and Sandra Tanner

I also had some other serious problems with the Golden Plates and Book of Mormon.  One of them is the plates themselves.  I just could not get past a few facts.  One of them is that the description of when Joseph Smith received the plates has him running home with them to hide them per the angels instructions.  The description of the plates, has them in such dimensions that the weight of them would have been outrageous!   In 1828, Martin Harris, is reported to have said that the plates were "fastened together in the shape of a book by wires" In 1859 Harris said that the plates "were seven inches [18 cm] wide by eight inches [20 cm] in length, and were of the thickness of plates of tin; and when piled one above the other, they were altogether about four inches [10 cm] thick; and they were put together on the back by three silver rings, so that they would open like a book"  
A bar of gold is 7 inches x 3 and 5/8 inches x 1 and 3/4 inches. Weight of a standard gold bar: approximately 400 ounces or 27.5 pounds. If the book was one inch thicker and 7 inches wider it would have been at *least* twice as heavy or something like 55 lbs. It would have weighed far too much for one man to carry at all easily, let alone run that far with! Then there is the problem of the weight of the gold on the plates themselves. Gold is very soft, and very heavy and those lower plates would have not been able to maintain the inscriptions. Surely another metal would have been a better choice.  Below is a scale model of the plates as they were described.


Then there is another big problem with the other document that Joseph Smith obtained from Egypt and "translated" into the Book of Abraham in the Mormon scripture The Pearl of Great Price.  At the time no one could, or ever expected to be able to, decipher hieroglyphics.  Since the Rosetta Stone was discovered and they were able to find a key to decipher them, the hieroglyphics depicted in the papyri that Joseph Smith "translated" have been found to be funeral instructions, and have nothing to do whatsoever with Abraham or anything else in the book. 


A portion of the papyri considered by some to be source of the Book of Abraham. The difference between Egyptologists' translation and Joseph Smith's interpretations have caused considerable controversy.

Add to that the Kinderhook fraud where people, who admittedly were trying to hurt Joseph Smith, gave him fake plates to translate, and he did.  He gave a translation that he said came from God, and God didn't tell him that it was all a fake.

On May 1, 1843, William Clayton, Joseph Smith’s private secretary, wrote in his journal: 
I have seen 6 brass plates covered with ancient  characters of language containing from 30 to 40 on each side of the plates. Prest J. [Joseph Smith] has translated a 
portion and says they contain the history of the person with whom they were found and he was a descendant of Ham through the loins of Pharaoh king of Egypt.

Clayton’s diary account then became the basis for the entry about the plates in the official History of the Church, vol. 5, page 372.
On May 7, 1843, Apostle Parley P. Pratt wrote a letter that included:
Six plates having the appearance of Brass have lately been dug out of the mound by a gentleman in Pike Co. Illinois. They are small and filled with engravings in 
Egyptian language and contain the genealogy of one of the ancient Jaredites back to Ham the son of Noah.


Front and back of four of the six Kinderhook plates are shown in these facsimiles, which appeared in 1909 in History of the Church, vol. 5, pp. 374–75.

All of this combined to be inarguable proof that the Book of Mormon and Joseph Smith could not be what I had been taught.  Not at all.

2. The Masons and Mormons

My grandpa was not a Mormon, but was a Mason, and I remember well how upset my mom would get by many of the Masonic rituals, and in particular the aprons that they wore.  As a child I didn't understand any of it since I didn't know anything about either Mormon temple rituals or Masonic rituals.  In my investigations however I learned how similar they are.  I also learned that Joseph Smith became a 33rd degree Master Mason in 1842 and that the temple rituals are beyond similar to the point of being nearly identical at times. This is verified by the Mormon History of the Church and by my speaking with former temple Mormons who verified the rituals for me personally.
Tuesday, [March] 15. — I officiated as grand chaplain at the installation of the Nauvoo Lodge of Free Masons, at the Grove near the Temple. Grand Master Jonas, of Columbus, being present, a large number of people assembled on the occasion. The day was exceedingly fine; all things were done in order, and universal satisfaction was manifested. In the evening I received the first degree in Freemasonry in the Nauvoo Lodge, assembled in my general business office. History of the Church (Joseph Smith)|History of the Church, by Joseph Smith, Deseret Book, 1978, Vol.4, Ch.32, p.550-1)
The link between Mormonism and Masonry is undeniable, and incompatible with the church being true.



3. Joseph Smith Prophesied too many things that didn't happen.

If a prophet is a prophet and when he is publicly saying he is prophesying it has to happen or it isn't from God. There are many many examples of his prophesies that didn't happen, but a few examples from Mormon literature and history are:

A. The Coming of the Lord

President Smith then stated that the meeting had been called, because God had commanded it; and it was made known to him by vision and by the Holy Spirit. . . . it was the will of God that they should be ordained to the ministry and go forth to prune the vineyard for the last time, for the coming of the Lord, which was nigh — even fifty six years should wind up the scene. (History of the Church, Vol. 2, page 182).

This prophecy was spoken by Joseph Smith in 1835, and recorded by Oliver Cowdery. 1891 marked the end of the 56 years and the possibility of it being true.

B. David W. Patten to go on a mission

Verily, thus saith the Lord: It is wisdom in my servant David W. Patten, that he settle up all his business as soon as he possibly can, and make a disposition of his merchandise, that he may perform a mission unto me next spring, in company with others, even twelve including himself, to testify of my name and bear glad tidings unto the world. (Doctrine & Covenants 114:1)

This prophecy was made on April 17, 1838. David W. Patten died in October of 1838 and of course, never went on a mission the following spring. This one is even part of Mormon scripture and is untrue!


C. Oliver B. Huntington wrote in 1892 in the "Young Woman's Journal", a church publication:

"Astronomers and philosophers have, from time almost immemorial until very recently, asserted that the moon was uninhabited, that it had no atmosphere, etc. But recent discoveries, through the means of powerful telescopes, have given scientists a doubt or two upon the old theory.

"Nearly all the great discoveries of man in the last half century have, in one way or another, either directly or indirectly, contributed to prove Joseph Smith to be a Prophet.

"As far back as 1837, I know that he [Joseph Smith] said the moon was inhabited by men and women the same as this earth, and that they lived to be a greater age than we do, that they lived generally to near the age of 1000 years.

"He described the men as averaging near six feet in height, and dressing quite uniformly in something near the Quaker style.

"In my Patriarchal blessing, given by the father of Joseph the Prophet, in Kirtland, 1837, I was told that I should preach the gospel to the inhabitants of the sea -- to the inhabitants of the moon, even the planet you can now behold with your eyes," (Vol. 3, pp. 263-264).

Learning these things, and finding them in Mormon literature, and trying to find a way to reconcile them is impossible.  It can't be done.  Either he was a prophet or he was not.  There is a lot more than this to prove he was not.

4.  Polygamy

It is true that polygamy is found in the Old Testament.  No question about it, so to say that the Mormon church is completely off base is not really fair.   My problem is in how it was instituted and how many lies, and outright moral problems with it were proven to be associated with Joseph Smith personally.  He married girls as young as 14.  He married women who were already married, and he did it long before the "revelation" came to Emma Smith.  He did it behind her back and even a few weeks before Smith’s death he preached,  “What a thing it is for a man to be accused of committing adultery, and having seven wives, when I can only find one.”   (Joseph Smith, History of the Church, (Sunday, May 26,  1844), vol. 6, p. 411)  He had at least thirty-four wives at the time of this sermon.  

5.  The Word of Wisdom
This one is more experiential and more of a specific irritation than historical and therefore somewhat different than the others.  In Mormon literature there is a passage that they call the Word of Wisdom.  To most Mormons it is a defining precept that differentiates them from others, and they take it very seriously.  It specifies that there should be no smoking, alcohol, or what they call hot beverages, and Mormons generally define as coffee and tea.  In modern years most Mormons acknowledge that by hot beverages the Word of Wisdom was talking about caffeinated beverages.  The problem is that almost universally Mormons drink Coke, Mountain Dew, take caffeine pills and so forth, but refuse to drink coffee or tea, and yet do drink herbal teas, hot chocolate and so forth.  So either it is hot beverages or it is caffeine that is the problem, but which?  I don't think even Mormons could answer that question.  

The Word of Wisdom also says,
16. All grain is good for the food of man; as also the fruit of the vine; that which yieldeth fruit, whether in the ground or above the ground—
17. Nevertheless, wheat for man, and corn for the ox, and oats for the horse, and rye for the fowls and for swine, and for all beasts of the field, and barley for all useful animals, and for mild drinks, as also other grain.
The revelation suggests that barley-based mild drinks (such as beer) may be permissible. As recently as 1901, Apostles Brigham Young, Jr. and John Henry Smith argued that the revelation did not prohibit beer and revered Mormon Porter Rockwell owned and operated a brewery well known to Brigham Young where the state Prison now is at the point of the mountain in Draper.  Church leaders now teach that consumption of any form of alcohol, including beer, violates the Word of Wisdom. (LDS Church (2002, 2d ed.) “Chapter 27: The Word of Wisdom,” Gospel Fundamentals (Salt Lake City, Utah: LDS Church) p. 150.)

I could go on, but this is enough for today.  So where did I land?  I landed in the Bible.  I landed on the cross of Jesus Christ that does not depend on all I can do first.  I landed as a Born Again Christian and everything I believe can stand up to scrutiny, scholarship, and investigation.  I am not afraid of my kids visiting a Mormon church and we allow them to do so.  I will speak the Truth to them, and they will see it for themselves.  I will never be afraid of Truth.

I should say that I spent a great deal of time deciding whether I should write this.  There are a lot of people in my life who I love dearly, family and friends who are Mormon, and I do not want to hurt them.  I will delete immediately any comments or posts that are in any way ugly or hurtful to them.  I am expressing MY views and why I left the Mormon church, and I am not trying to convince anyone to my views.  I just felt like it was time for me to publicly say why; to explain to them why I left, and to show them that it was not a casual decision or that I was deceived by someone.  It was me.

Saturday, May 18, 2013

Have We Sold Our Children?

  • What if I told you that there is a multi billion dollar industry out there that daily tries to convince you to change your lifestyle?
  • What if I told you that they want you to believe certain things in order to sell their product?
  • What if I told you that a very rich and deep-pocketed industry has their best interests at heart and not necessarily yours?
  • What if I told you that this industry doesn't care a whit about what the Bible says?
  • What if I further told you that they spend a lot of money on advertising and marketing to cause you to think differently than you would have without their influences?
Yeah not one of the statements above shocks us because we are so used to it!

We know that those companies advertising on TV and billboards are in it for the money, and while we may like the products and even choose to buy them, we know that they are trying to manipulate us.  But what if there is an industry that has manipulated us so well that we don't recognize it as marketing and creating a market that wasn't there before?  Has that ever happened before?  Do you think it is possible that our selfish desires and what the Bible calls sin nature might cause us to fall into a carefully laid trap without realizing it?  Or that something that might be a small need for a small market has been or could be made into something very large?

There are hundreds of examples of how our actual culture has changed based on marketing of products and services that didn't exist before.  Take fast food for example, or the Four Food groups, which is now the Food Pyramid.  How about microwaves or TVs?  Whose idea do you think it was that every bedroom should have a TV along with the kitchen?  I suspect that the idea was planted as a way to sell more televisions, don't you?

When I was in high school I was deeply involved with debate, and was very good at it.  It taught me how to think and gave me critical thinking skills that have served me well.  So if you want to know about the background of something, you should look at who would benefit.  That is logical.  If you want to know why McDonald's spends a bazillion dollars on advertising, you should know it is because it benefits them.  It is profitable.  It is also profitable for them to help people to think, for example, that a brown bag lunch is less COOL.  So perhaps they might have started a separate and less obvious campaign to change public opinion.  Maybe they began a public relations campaign to change our opinions about brown bagging it and they might even have paid people to write a sentence or two in a sit-com about how silly it is to carry your lunch.  Do you think that is possible?

We know about subliminal advertising, or about companies that pay to have their products used or shown in movies and on TV by what gives the consumers the impression of real people.  So a popular character might drink a coke.  Or a super sexy feminine woman might use a particular perfume in a movie or drive a certain car.  We all know this.  And it is proven to work.  Every buying decision is carefully studied and even scripted for us and there is no doubt that this is effective.  We also know about "official" studies that are conducted with a certain result in mind, paid for by a company selling something, and it is also very effective.  We buy into the ideas that are being sold as much as the product being sold.

The Bible says we are sheep, and we really are.

So it should not be shocking for me to suggest that the contraceptive industry has perpetrated a lie on American and western culture.  And they have changed our collective minds about families.

Prior to 1960 guess what people thought about having kids?
  • Getting married and having kids was desirable.
  • Living together was not. Even if it was okay morally, the chance of a baby made women more conscious of commitment.  
  • Having several kids was a good thing; 4, 5, 6 kids was a normal family.
  • Having 25 kids was really hard.
  • Grandchildren were a blessing.
  • Having older kids and younger kids was a blessing.
  • Families stayed together, divorce was much more rare, extended family was involved, and they learned from one another.
Don't believe me?  Look at all the media produced, books written, diaries, journals, newspapers, your own family history. 

1960
  • It was right about the time that the Pill was invented that the world started to hear noises about overpopulation.  We know now that this is a complete fallacy, but who do you suppose funded and perpetuated that research?  
  • Who do you suppose funded the research showing an "optimal spacing" between children?  
  • Who do you suppose funded the increasing media, articles, ads, sit-coms, and so on, showing an "ideal" family being 1 boy and 1 girl?
  • Who do you suppose perpetuated the idea that children are too expensive and that we should wait to have them, "for their good?" Who benefits from the waiting?  Is it the women who wait too long and then could not have babies?  I don't think so.
Follow the money.  Who benefits?  

We now have a generation of adults who fell into this trap entering their senior years.  They have no one to care for them, because they bought the idea that caring for someone is too hard, and they taught their children this lie.  The social security is drying up because there are not enough workers to support it.  The population of some countries is declining so rapidly that women are literally being paid to have babies!  This is not even uncommon.

The Pill is unhealthy for women.  Did you know that the Pill was the very first drug marketed to healthy people to cause something to function improperly?  Women's bodies were created to work a certain way.  When it is working properly a baby is produced in a sexual relationship.  The Pill literally causes it to be broken.  The hormones are dangerous and cause cancer.  Doctors know this and it is very common for them to suppress all female hormones when a woman is diagnosed with breast cancer.  Especially the ones in the Pill.  The hormones are known to cause the cancer to grow much faster.

Did you know that according to the American Cancer Society, between 1970 and 1996 breast cancer rose 171% and the female population rose 29%? Did you know that 1970 was the time when the Pill began to be marketed to single women as well as married?  Do you think there might be a correlation? 

        (1) Breast-cancer incidence rises from 68,000 to 184,300 between 1970 and 1996. Factor of Rise = 184,300 / 68,000 = 2.71. Rise = 171 %.
        (2) Female Population Rise from 1970 to 1995 = 134,461 / 104,309 = 1.29. Rise = 29 %. (Table 2)
        (3) There is no way that female population increase alone can account for the enormous rise in breast-cancer incidence.

Follow the money.  Who benefits?  Women?  I don't think so.  Women are dying in record numbers and there is a direct correlation to a hormonal link.

Now let's compare what the Bible says about children and what we are conditioned to think is "smart" and even "responsible" adult behavior in regards to children.

The Bible says:
We are conditioned to think:
Psalm 127 A man is blessed who has many children and it is proof of God’s blessing.
Many children are a burden and proof of irresponsibility.
Psalm 17:13-14 Children are a treasure and abundance.
Children are too expesnive and you can’t have what you want if you have any, or too many, or too soon.
Psalm 113:9 Being a mother is a joy
Being a mother is something to be endured.
Matthew 18 Children are the greatest in the kingdom of heaven
Children are inconvenient.
Luke 23: Jesus talking about the end times and the grief of a time when being barren would be celebrated.
Our culture celebrates Childless-by-   Choice, and even encourages it by saying things like women who don’t want children shouldn't have them.  We don’t want them because we have believed the lie that we shouldn't want them.  We suppress our natural desires.


What does the Bible say?  What do you believe?  Does this thought stretch your thinking?

Do you believe what the Bible says or what our culture has taught?

Is this so ingrained in you that you are not willing to even think about it and my words here have even made you angry?

Why do you think that is?  All I am asking is for you to think it through and not just accept the common views and cultural biases.

Again, what does God say about it?

 


Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Cheeseburgers and Gay People

I am a born again Christian, and I take it very seriously.  Because I believe that the rule book was set by God and not by me I do believe that practicing homosexuality is a sin.  But I do not believe that being gay is a sin.

How can those two beliefs coexist in me?

I am fat.  Quite fat.  I believe the Bible teaches me to be self controlled and to not be gluttonous.  And yet, here I am.  Fat.  Why am I fat if I believe that it is gluttony for me to overeat?  Well...because I overeat anyway.  I fight this physical appetite every single day of my life.  I do not claim it is okay, and I don't suggest that I should be a role model as one who lives a sinless life.  I know lots of thin people too, some of whom rarely struggle at all with their weight and have even advised me on how to stop being the way I am.  I have tried their advice to no avail.  I have some areas that I almost never have a struggle to avoid the sin.  I very seldom am envious for example, and I am not stingy.  I do swear now and then to my dismay.

I don't know why I struggle so much with food and my weight.  All I know is I do.  I suspect that I might have been born with this particular propensity.  I wonder how I would feel if large groups of people who claim to be loving and forgiving held rallies to condemn me with signs and hatred?  I wonder if it would make me want to be in any way affiliated with them?  I wonder if I might instead turn to a cheeseburger and decide that I might as well indulge my appetite since it doesn't matter anyway and I know I will be hated for even desiring a cheeseburger.  I might even find other groups of cheeseburger lovers and be friends with them instead.  I might even start to think that wanting a cheeseburger is a pretty normal thing to want and start to get pretty mad at the people who are treating me this way.

The funny thing is that I have sat in rooms packed full of Christians and admitted to them that I love cheeseburgers and that I eat them even when I know I should not.  I even <gasp> told my pastor's wife a few days ago that when I was going through a hard time recently that I turned to food for comfort. I believe I said "everything else feels bad, my mouth could at least feel good."  She knew I was not proud of it, and yet she hugged me and that told me I could keep trying, and would succeed one day.

I wonder what would happen if we treated people that way?  I wonder if we would be where we are right now with the huge animosity that is being leveled against people like me-Born Again Christians-because a large group of people think I hate them.  I don't.  I love cheeseburgers too much to point a finger at anyone else.